Saturday, April 14, 2007

It's like they're reading my mind

Well finally!

I get how people love online social tools. I do. I get how people are really into it, and how people use them to not only keep up with their real life friends but to develop new social circles, based on a variety of commonalities. And that's great. But, seriously, how much of this stuff can we really handle? Well, it seems the answer to that is "only some" - hence Social Network Fatigue. One of the coolest people I know is even writing about it, so it must be real.

This is one of the reasons it's taken me so long to set up something as simple as a blog - because there's just TOO MUCH. There's too much to try and experiment with, and I feel like I'm meant to try them all - after all, how daggy do you look when someone says "hey, try out this hot new thing that's about to be all the rage" and you say "no thanks, I've got a telephone, an email account, and about five great local pubs, and that takes care of my social networking needs."

In real life we usually don't have 10 different groups of friends - or at least, the people I know don't. I've been told on many occassions that I have more separate groups of friends that the average person - and I reckon I have about 5 disparate groups. Why is it that I'm expected to sign up to another 10 social network sites? What would I gain from these? More friends? I don't spend enough time with my friends as it is, so why would I want more?

A theme seems to be that people are finding that if they sign up to a new social networking site, they often end up socialising online with the same groups anyway - so, apart from experimenting to find the one that best suits, why use multiple sites?

I have a friend, a good friend, who moved overseas a few years back. We email each other occassionally, and that's cool - but she keeps pointing me towards her blog as a way to keep in touch. I've read it a couple of times, but, well, it's kinda boring - I'd rather have an email conversation than read a generic blog that's aimed, supposedly, at ALL her friends. And I hate the idea that it's a substitute for actually keeping up with each other.

Imagine you meet you friend at the pub. When you arrive she talks at you, non stop, for an hour, about anything she wants with no regard to whether you're interested in that part of her life at all. At the end of her rant, she invites you to comment - she may or may not respond to the comments. THIS IS NOT A DISCUSSION! This person would soon be sitting alone talking to the ashtray. Much as I suspect I'm doing with this blog :)

So I'm glad someone's given a name to my condition. If I'm really lucky a big pharma will turn it into an anxiety disorder and tailor some medication to my specific needs. The future is bright!

1 comment:

Fiona said...

Thanks for the link ;)

There must be some irony in that my post on social network fatigue has attracted lots of comments.